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Red heart with the text "ILB" emblazoned about it.
My logo.
Yes, I made this.

I’m Innocent Loverboy (or ILB if you want to conserve precious keystrokes) – that’s Loverboy, not “Lover Boy”, pronounced /aɪɛlbiː/ like “I’ll be”, not /ɪlb/ like “illb”, which isn’t a word.

I’m an, cisgender, straight, male blogger from London struggling through my late 30s. I’ve always been interested in love and sex, which I’m using as some sort of excuse for the fact that have been writing a blog about the subject for more than a decade.

2024 is my seventeenth year of sex blogging. You may know me from my old blog on Blogger, which is still in situ and where you’ll find my first twelve years’ worth of content (sit back and enjoy!). You may also know me from social media, where I can be found on Twitter / X, Mastodon and Bluesky.

Both blogs contain a lot of cyclical backlinks. If you click on a link and find you’ve been taken to my old blog, don’t worry, it’s meant to do that. There is a button atop my old blog which will take you back to this one.

Since starting my blog, I’ve been featured in publications such as Metro, Glamour, ES Magazine, and have won a place on lists of top 100 sex blogs from 2009 to 2022! You’ll also find some of my writing on and KinkCraft among other places. I’ve also been seen at Eroticon, Erotica UK, Sexpo and erotica readings around London.

I am available to write articles for money (contact me if you’d like me to), but this blog is completely ad-free. Additionally, I won’t post paid ads, sponsored content or affiliate links, so please don’t ask! I wrote a post about it here.

Unlike a lot of other sex blogs, you won’t find many sex toy reviews or much photography on this blog (although there are some of both…). I will discuss anything, however, and in seventeen years there are very few things I haven’t covered.

Young man with short black hair and blue eyes on an orange background.
Me at 25, by Boots McGoot.

In Spring 2021 I was diagnosed with myotonic dystrophy. This affects my mobility, co-ordination and spatial awareness – plus concentration, at points – and I am learning to live with it. In 2023 I was additionally diagnosed with atrial flutter, which further affects my wakefulness. I don’t generally talk much about disability here, but I will occasionally mention it. To find out more about DM, MDUK has a good primer on it here.

Outside of sex (heh), my interests include literature (of all kinds), music (of all kinds), video games (mostly Nintendo), musical theatre, cinema, and softcore porn.

I am married to horror newsletter writer Jill Sleight; I also have several groups of friends and acquaintances, and I have a very large family. You may see some of them mentioned on the blog, but they all have pseudonyms. My best friends are 47, Robinson, Mane, Einstein and H, but there are many more.

Oh, and if it matters:
– I’ve kissed 12 people
– I’ve had sexual contact with 10 people
– I’ve had sex with 8 people
– I’ve had 4 relationships
– I am in a relationship with 1 person

Possibly a bit of a geek. Road work ahead? I sure hope it does.