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My logo.
Yes, I made this.

I’m Innocent Loverboy (or “ILB” if you want to conserve precious keystrokes). I’m an allosexual, cisgender, straight male blogger, currently in my 30s. I live in London, but I like to travel. I’ve always been interested in love and sex, and as some sort of excuse, have been writing a blog about the subject for more than a decade.

2023 is my sixteenth year of sex blogging. You may know me from my old blog on Blogger, which is still in situ and where you’ll find my first twelve years’ worth of content (sit back and enjoy!). There are a lot of cyclical backlinks on both blogs, which serve to kind of tie everything together. Is the aim, anyway.

Since starting my blog, I’ve been featured in publications such as Metro, Glamour, ES Magazine, and have won a place on lists of top 100 sex blogs from 2009 to 2022! You’ll also find some of my writing on and KinkCraft among other places. I’ve also been found at Eroticon, Erotica UK, Sexpo and erotica readings around London.

I am available to write articles for money (contact me if you’d like me to), but this blog is completely ad-free. I won’t post paid ads, sponsored content or affiliate links, so please don’t ask!

Unlike a lot of other sex blogs, you won’t find many sex toy reviews or much photography on this blog. There also isn’t a heavy focus on BDSM, polyamory, kink or power dynamics. I am relatively vanilla, and monogamous, although fascinated by sex and sexuality, and I’ll discuss anything.

Young man with short black hair and blue eyes on an orange background.
Me at 25, by Boots McGoot.

In Spring 2021 I was diagnosed with myotonic dystrophy. This affects my mobility, co-ordination and spatial awareness – plus concentration, at points – and I am learning to live with it. I don’t generally talk much about disability here, but I will occasionally mention it. To find out more about DM, MDUK has a good primer on it here.

Outside of sex (heh), my interests include literature (of all kinds), music (of all kinds), video games (mostly Nintendo), musical theatre, cinema, and softcore porn.

I am married to Eurovision blogger and horror newsletter writer Jill Sleight; I also have several groups of friends and acquaintances and I have a very large family. You may see some of them mentioned on the blog, with pseudonyms; if you think you recognise anyone, please keep this to yourself.

Possibly a bit of a geek. Possibly.